by Margarita Tarragona, PhD
This ritual from Margarita gives a twist on the Appreciative Inquiry train, in addition to particular inquiries to help your reflections.
I like celebrating the brand new yr. Ending a cycle and starting one thing new makes me really feel obsessed with what comes subsequent and hopeful that—this time for certain!—I’ll keep on with my New 12 months’s resolutions. (By the best way, analysis by John C. Norcross discovered that making New 12 months’s resolutions does enhance our probabilities of altering our habits and buying new habits.)
I just lately heard a couple of Mexican custom known as “burning the outdated yr.” Within the southeast of Mexico, it’s customary to make a work out of outdated garments, straw, and cardboard and burn it on the finish of the yr. Like all rituals, this one is filled with symbolism, and the thought of burning, letting go, and even cleaning via hearth one thing that’s ending could be very highly effective, because it permits us to create space for brand spanking new issues to come back.
In my household and with my colleagues from Grupo Campos Elíseos, we now have a New 12 months’s ritual that we now have been doing for years. We reply in writing a couple of questions that invite us to replicate in regards to the yr that’s coming to an finish and about our desires for the yr that’s starting.
That is how we do it:
• We print a web page with eight questions (one copy per particular person) and have pens and envelopes accessible.
• Family members, or of the group, write down their responses (they don’t have to share them), put them in an envelope and seal it.
• Certainly one of us retains the envelopes in a secure place.
• Once we get collectively once more on the finish of the next yr, individuals get their envelopes again and might see what they completed, what stunned them and what experiences that they had previously 12 months.
If you need to do this train this New 12 months’s Eve, these are the questions:
1. What was one of many moments you loved essentially the most in 2015?
2. What are you most grateful for in 2015?
3. What was your most essential achievement this yr?
4. What’s one thing new that you just discovered in 2015?
5. What are you glad to go away behind as this yr ends?
6. What’s one among your most essential tasks for 2016?
7. What do you wish to do for others in 2016?
8. What do you wish to do for your self in 2016?
Joyful New 12 months!
Dr. Margarita Tarragona is the creator of the course Your Greatest You: Crafting Constructive Life Tales at Wholebeing Institute. She is a psychologist who makes a speciality of private and relational transformation. As a clinician, coach, and organizational marketing consultant, she incorporates scientific findings on flourishing from optimistic psychology with conversational and narrative methods of working with shoppers, with the targets of producing dialogue and increasing their life tales. Margarita is the writer of Constructive Identities: Constructive Psychology and Narrative Practices.